The holiday season is a time of wonder and excitement, especially for children. As parents, we want to create special memories that our kids will cherish for years to come. But the pressure to make everything “perfect” can quickly lead to burnout for parents—and even overwhelm our children. Instead of stressing over elaborate events, let’s focus on ways to bring joy to the season while maintaining a sense of balance. Here’s how you can do that as a parent in St. Louis, without exhausting yourself or your family.
Keep Traditions Simple (But Meaningful)
You don’t need to fill every weekend with extravagant outings to create magical moments. Sometimes, the simplest traditions are the most memorable. Consider spending an afternoon at your local park or walking through the Missouri Botanical Garden’s “Garden Glow.” These activities don’t require heavy planning and offer a slower-paced way to soak in the holiday spirit.
In a previous blog, I discussed how small moments, like baking cookies together or watching a favorite holiday movie, can be just as impactful as bigger events. These little traditions help your family feel connected without leaving you drained.
Set Boundaries Around Events
St. Louis is full of holiday events—Zoo Lights, the Polar Express Train Ride, and the Winterfest Ice Rink downtown. It’s tempting to say “yes” to every invitation, but consider setting boundaries. It’s okay to skip a party or limit how many events you attend in one week. This prevents overscheduling and ensures that both you and your kids have the energy to truly enjoy the moments you choose to partake in.
Let’s also acknowledge that kids can get tired quickly. If they’ve had a busy day at school, consider a cozy night at home instead of rushing to the next holiday event. You might be surprised at how much your children appreciate the downtime.
Focus on Presence, Not Perfection
In one of my previous posts, I shared that holiday magic doesn’t have to be picture-perfect. Often, it’s about being present, not perfection. When we stress about getting that ideal photo for social media or making everything look flawless, we lose sight of what truly matters—our connection with our kids.
Instead of chasing perfection, focus on engaging with your children. Be present when you’re decorating the tree, sipping hot cocoa, or playing in the snow. These moments, without the stress of expectations, become the magical memories your kids will remember.
Practice Mindful Planning
Mindful planning can be your best friend during the holidays. Take some time to map out what’s most important to your family. Do your kids love visiting Santa at Plaza Frontenac, or are they more excited about decorating the house? Prioritize what matters most, and let go of the rest.
This planning phase is also a great time to communicate with your kids. Ask them what they’re most excited about, and involve them in the planning. By including your children in the decision-making, you’ll have a better sense of what they genuinely want to do, and you’ll avoid unnecessary activities that might lead to burnout.
Create Space for Rest and Routine
The holidays often disrupt routines, but finding ways to keep a sense of normalcy can go a long way. If bedtime is usually at 8 p.m., try not to push it too far back, even during busy weeks. Keeping some consistency with meals, naps, and quiet time helps children (and adults!) regulate emotions and avoid feeling overwhelmed.
Consider scheduling “down days” where nothing is planned. These are perfect for lounging in pajamas, reading holiday books, or simply recharging. In my previous blogs, I mentioned the importance of taking care of yourself during the holidays, and this includes knowing when to rest.
Limit the Gifts (and the Expectations)
It’s easy to feel the pressure of giving “all the things” to make your children happy. But too many gifts can lead to sensory overload for kids, and a strain on parents to keep up with expectations. Instead of going overboard, consider limiting the number of presents and opting for more meaningful choices.
Experiential gifts like a membership to the Magic House or a promise of a special outing to Ted Drewes for frozen custard can be more memorable than material items. Experiences also allow for more quality time, strengthening the parent-child bond during the season.
Take Care of Yourself, Too
We can’t create a magical experience for our children if we’re running on empty. In previous posts, I emphasized the importance of self-care for parents, and that message holds even more weight during the holidays. Make sure you’re taking time to recharge—whether it’s scheduling a coffee break at a cozy St. Louis café, booking a babysitter for a night out, or just taking a quiet walk through a neighborhood full of holiday lights.
By nurturing your well-being, you’re modeling self-care for your children, teaching them that it’s okay to slow down and prioritize mental health.
Embrace Imperfections and Laugh
Let’s face it: things are going to go wrong. Maybe the gingerbread house collapses, or you forget to move the Elf on the Shelf. Instead of letting these moments lead to stress, try to laugh them off. Embrace the imperfections, because they often turn into the funniest and most endearing memories. The holidays are about connection, not perfection.
By following these strategies, you can create a joyful holiday experience in St. Louis that’s magical for your children without sacrificing your sanity. Keep the focus on connection, not on how “perfect” everything looks, and remember that it’s okay to say no, rest, and choose simplicity.
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