How to Address Relationship Issues and Build Emotional Safety

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Relationships thrive on emotional security, trust, and open communication. Yet even the strongest couples face moments of tension, unspoken concerns, or recurring disagreements. These challenges often stem from deeper, unresolved issues—patterns that, if left unchecked, can further harm the foundation of a relationship. Addressing these underlying problems with intention and care creates stronger relationships and … Read more

Premarital Counseling Isn’t Just for Engagements—It’s for Anyone Choosing Commitment

Premarital Counesling Isn’t Just for Engagements—It’s for Anyone Choosing Commitment

There’s a quiet misconception floating around: That premarital counseling is only for couples who are officially engaged. You know—the ones with the ring, the date, the Pinterest board. #engagementera But here’s the truth:  You don’t need to be wedding planning to benefit from premarital counseling.In fact, you don’t need to be planning a wedding at … Read more

I Choose You: Sex When Desire Isn’t Equal

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Sexual desire in long-term relationships often fluctuates and sometimes, it feels like you and your partner are simply not on the same page. One of you may want sex more frequently while the other’s interest wanes. This mismatch can create tension, confusion, and even feelings of rejection or guilt. But desire discrepancy doesn’t have to … Read more

Can You Be Friends After a Situationship?

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Exploring Boundaries, Healing, and What’s Possible for Your Emotional Wellbeing Understanding Situationships: The Gray Zone of Modern Dating If you’ve found yourself in a situationship, you’re not alone. Situationships–those “more than friends, less than a relationship” connections–are increasingly common in today’s dating landscape, especially among young adults and busy professionals in places like Ballwin, Kirkwood, … Read more

Compulsive Spending: The Individual and Relationship Costs

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Compulsive spending, often referred to as compulsive buying disorder or shopping addiction, is a complex behavioral issue that can deeply affect not only the individual but also their closest relationships-especially marriage. When a loved one struggles with uncontrollable urges to spend, the consequences ripple through financial stability, emotional trust, and overall relational health. This blog … Read more

Why Friendship Breakups Matter: Exploring the Lasting Effects on Mental Health

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Friendship breakups–those painful moments when a close connection fades or ends–are often overlooked in conversations about emotional well-being. Yet, these losses can be just as impactful as romantic breakups, stirring up a complex mix of emotions and mental health challenges. If you’ve ever experienced the sudden silence of a once-close friend or felt the sting … Read more

“They Didn’t Cheat, But…”: Impact of Emotional Infidelity

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As therapists specializing in relationship issues and betrayal trauma, we often encounter clients grappling with a form of infidelity that doesn’t involve physical cheating but can be just as devastating: emotional infidelity. This type of betrayal, while sometimes less tangible, can leave deep scars and shatter trust in ways that are just as profound as … Read more

Navigating the Holidays in the Face of Betrayal Trauma

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The holiday season can be a challenging time for many, but for those grappling with betrayal trauma, it can feel particularly overwhelming. If you’re facing the aftermath of infidelity, sex addiction, or porn addiction in your relationship, know that you’re not alone. As a trainee of Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialist (APSATS), … Read more

Infidelity and Mental Health: Navigating Emotional Turbulence

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Infidelity can shatter the foundation of trust and intimacy in a relationship, leaving both partners grappling with a whirlwind of emotions and psychological challenges. As a St. Louis couples therapist serving the communities of West County, including Ballwin, Chesterfield, and Frontenac, I’ve witnessed firsthand the profound impact infidelity can have on mental health. This betrayal … Read more